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I help high-potential humans who feel stuck build a BIG and VIBRANT life that attracts a community of like souls. I use a mind-body approach that engages your inner healer to move from states of anxiety, burnout, disconnection, and pain to states of goodness, flow, and feeling at home in your body. This provides a REAL foundation for deeply intimate relationships and a meaningful career adaptation, which organically grows into a community platform organized around a FELT sense of purpose and good energy.
I use a combination of Somatic Experiencing, Internal Family Systems, Neuroscience, Attachment Theory, and Psychodynamic approaches. I work in private practice and provide services through Mobius Executive Leadership, Pain Psychology Center, and Community West. I have Masters Degrees in Clinical Psychology and Business Science and am fully-trained as a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. Previously, I worked for seven years in investment banking, private equity, and marketing strategy and traveled the world for five years rock climbing, sailing, and investing.
I currently have availability for private clients in-person in Santa Monica, California and online.
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My Own Healing Story
That’s me blowing out the candles. I was a shy kid with a deep interest in cakes.
I grew up in the ‘burbs in Cape Town, South Africa. My life proceeded in a mainstream kind-of-a-way until age 27, at which point I had a successful career in finance, and had “made it” in New York City and Los Angeles. But it felt hollow and false. My body was burned out to a dark crisp and refused to get out of bed most mornings. So, I announced a “quarter life crisis” to the three people I knew outside of work and dropped everything to travel the world in order to “find myself.” Thankfully, my partner joined this adventure and we rock climbed, sailed, and did exactly what we felt like doing every day for half-a-decade. It was a good time.
Well, the day came when I returned to civilization with a Chris McCandless beard but, alas, I was no more found than when I left. The answer had not been out there waiting to recruit me.
For three more years, I lived outside the system as a visual artist but couldn’t explain how it was going to, you know, work out financially. I returned to work in the corporate world and discovered that I was now a star-shaped peg trying to fit a cubicle-shaped hole. I could no longer fake my old identity. My life as a sheeple was over.
It was at this point that i committed to the nitty gritty work of inner change and started to rebuild my life around who i actually felt myself to be. Through somatic therapy, I got in touch with my sensitive emotional core and realized I had not been a very good steward of it. I learned to stop overriding my body and began to value my sensitive nature as the gift it truly is. I was surprised to notice my back pain disappear along with my lifelong pattern of severe migraines. I had assumed these migraines were deeply biological and would always be with me. I also unwound some serious toxic masculinity, white privilege, and a deep fear of emotion and I began to reveal more of my true self to others. Over time, I became less defensive and resentful, and could form deeper, more honest, and more nourishing relationships, or I simply moved away from the relationships I couldn’t make work. I started to do more of the things I liked doing and less of what was expected of me. My body confirmed these changes by gifting me energy and motivation and connecting me to a rich emotional landscape. I started to love my life to a whole new level.
Along the way, I discovered an insecure overachiever personality that had usurped my identity at a young age and had secretly written the script for my life. Unfortunately this script turned out to be a straight-to-video kind-of movie where the juicy bits had all been cut for budget. This personality motivated itself through fear, turned everything into a competition, and alienated me from my emotional core and true authenticity. It made life look good to others but not feel good on the inside. I still have this aspect of my identity when needed but it now works for big-me and has allowed for healing to take place and much deeper parts of me to emerge. My script is being rewritten as a medieval epic with magic and dragons.
Well, that’s a quick sketch. The important thing is that I now have a life that fills me up and allows me to live for long stretches in creative flow and emotional connection. As David Bowie put it,
I don’t know where I’m going from here but I promise it won’t be boring.
I hope my story is helpful to you as you think about your own story. As Goethe wrote,
“Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.”
Steven Bradshaw is a Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist (#128772) supervised by W. Preston Lear, PsyD, LCSW (#22857)